This is the first post in the “A to Z Challenge”. I’ll be posting every day in April except Sundays, on a topic appropriate to cruising and following the alphabet from “A” to “Z”. Enjoy!
“So… what do you think about selling everything and arranging our lives so that we can get on the boat and sail it down to Florida in the fall of 2016?”
How’s that for a conversation opener?
But that’s just what I said to my wife Nicki in the late winter of 2014-’15. We’d already had the idea going for a while, kicking around, but we hadn’t actually “pulled the trigger” – set a date. As motivation there was the backdrop of the winter of 2015 – one of the harshest winters we’ve had in New England in some time. It was the winter I sat down on my 53 birthday, looked at the time it was going to take to finish the restoration of our 35-foot project boat, Renaissance, and realized I wasn’t going to live long enough to finish it.
Of course the question didn’t just come out of the blue. We’d been working on the boat restoration (which we abandoned that winter so that we could actually GO instead of working on a boat) for over a year, with the intention of “someday” heading off for an extended cruise aboard. We knew we wanted to sail someplace warmer – somewhere where the butter will melt if you leave it sitting out on the counter – and the winter from hell brought that desire very much to the fore of our thinking.
So I asked.
Asking for what you want is an incredibly risky and powerful thing to do. After all, she might have said “No”. But for the record, she didn’t, and in the intervening time we’ve sold real estate, bought a different boat that’s nearly ready to make the trip south, moved into an RV for the summer, and arranged our affairs so that we’re able to do what most never do: Leave our figurative cubicles and step out for an adventure.
That’s the power of “ASKING”.