'Til the butter melts

Pursuing the cruising dream in 32' of sailing ketch

“ASKING” – The A to Z Challenge


This is the first post in the “A to Z Challenge”. I’ll be posting every day in April except Sundays, on a topic appropriate to cruising and following the alphabet from “A” to “Z”.  Enjoy!


“So… what do you think about selling everything and arranging our lives so that we can get on the boat and sail it down to Florida in the fall of 2016?”

How’s that for a conversation opener?

But that’s just what I said to my wife Nicki in the late winter of 2014-’15.  We’d already had the idea going for a while, kicking around, but we hadn’t actually “pulled the trigger” – set a date.  As motivation there was the backdrop of the winter of 2015 – one of the harshest winters we’ve had in New England in some time.  It was the winter I sat down on my 53 birthday, looked at the time it was going to take to finish the restoration of our 35-foot  project boat, Renaissance, and realized I wasn’t going to live long enough to finish it.

Of course the question didn’t just come out of the blue. We’d been working on the boat restoration (which we abandoned that winter so that we could actually GO instead of working on a boat) for over a year, with the intention of “someday” heading off for an extended cruise aboard.  We knew we wanted to sail someplace warmer –  somewhere where the butter will melt if you leave it sitting out on the counter – and the winter from hell brought that desire very much to the fore of our thinking.

So I asked.

Asking for what you want is an incredibly risky and powerful thing to do. After all, she might have said “No”. But for the record, she didn’t, and in the intervening time we’ve sold real estate, bought a different boat that’s nearly ready to make the trip south, moved into an RV for the summer, and arranged our affairs so that we’re able to do what most never do: Leave our figurative cubicles and step out for an adventure.


That’s the power of ASKING”.


Author: s/v sionna

Living the dream in 32'. We left Maine on August 18th, 2016, and have gradually worked our way south until we felt warm enough. After spending the summer in Maine, working to replenish the cruising kitty, we’re back on the boat, with plans to visit the Bahamas later in the winter. Follow our blog here, and follow our progress in map form by joining www.Farkwar.com!

5 thoughts on ““ASKING” – The A to Z Challenge

  1. An excellent start to the challenge! A is also for August 15th, the date on your countdown clock on your blog. Coincidence? I think not 🙂

    Looking forward to B and so happy you joined in!!


  2. Thanks Ellen! I’m off to read yours!


  3. Hi there! Just stopping by via the AtoZ Challenge.
    What a heavenly idea! Congrats on the new boat and good luck as you work toward your new journey.
    I will be kicking around your blog for a bit, reading your other A2Zs and making comments, but this will be the only time I will leave the links to mine. Have a great Sunday!
    Many Blessings,

    My A2Zs @ As the Fates Would Have It & Promptly Written


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